Can a single income of $100,000 sufficiently support two people? How does the transition from stay-at-home spouse to the workforce affect relationships? Brace yourself as we tackle these questions and more in today's sizzling episode. We unpack a heated Twitter debate about a woman grappling with the decision to become a stay-at-home wife, supported by her partner's annual $100,000 income. We scrutinize the financial implications and the responsibilities that come with this choice, as well as the traditional gender roles tied to it. This thought-provoking discussion will challenge your preconceptions and leave you pondering the true value of income versus lifestyle.
In the second half, we shake things up by diving into the world of couples transitioning from a one-income lifestyle back to dual incomes. We candidly share insights and experiences on how this shift can impact relationships, emphasizing the importance of financial security and planning for life's unpredictable turns. But it's not all heavy discussions, we also dish out our thoughts on Chris Brown's latest album, and end on a lighter note with a mouth-watering chat about food. So, get comfortable and get ready for an intriguing rollercoaster of discussions on life, love, money, music, and food!
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Speaker 1:
Welcome to Taken it where we give our takes on whatever is happening all over the black internet. Okay, so the next topic we're going to talk about is the um I guess, an ongoing Twitter discussion. Um, this girl basically said that her man wants her to be a stay-at-home wife, but he only makes 100,000 a year. So he asked her to be a stay-at-home wife. Yeah, like he offered. Like you know, you can be a stay-at-home wife. You can't with a hundred thousand dollars a year.
Speaker 1:
No, no, no, I'm sorry, I don't know. I feel like it depends where you live in. Yeah, I was like saying and if it's only y'all two, then no, no, fuck that. No, no, because realistically, let's be honest, what does a homie look like? Because what do these bills look like in this house? Yeah, right, if you make $20 an hour, you only make $40k, I'm gonna say, because if she only gonna make less than $50,000, the average person makes about, or less than, $50,000, then she's not really missing out on no money. So think of it this way $150,000.
Speaker 1:
$100,000. What are you taking Exactly? If you live comfortably, if both y'all make $50k, but instead of that he makes $100k and then you can stay at home, that ain't enough for me. No, how do you need more money to stay at home? Because even people that make $50k are still living check to check. They are not living comfortably, right? So you make $50k, I make $50k. Okay, that means we're splitting the bills. You get to live comfortably, still do what you want to do with your portion of the money. Now you take on all these bills. You also take on taking care of me, because I don't have my own money to take care of myself anymore. And then what about the just as simple goals I may have for myself? I may want a savings account. I may want another savings account you don't know about.
Speaker 1:
Tell me, I agree with that. What about the vacation fund? Like, I feel like $100,000 is just not enough to put that on your back and still be comfortable and do regular things. And that's before taxes, that's before taxes. That's just not. That would not.
Speaker 1:
No, I say, if both of y'all can make 50k and live off of that, then there's no reason why both of y'all can live off of 100. I feel like both people making 50k are still struggling. Still, yeah, $100,000 a year regardless is not enough money for two plus people. I'm saying if y'all not struggling. If both of you guys making 50k are not struggling, then one of you making 100k is the same. That's different.
Speaker 1:
But where are you living? That's why I said depends on where you live at, because not too far from here, a big house is like 700 a month. Where is the? Not too far? In the Poconos? In the Poconos, see, convenience Conveyance Depends on where you live. No, that's not working Right now. Today.
Speaker 1:
Yes, I can go on Facebook right now. I'm going to marketplace and find one right now. What are you are in the portrait, everything marketplace. I'm saying there's a bigger. Look at the paper number. No, zillow. I'm going to have a opportunity and stuff like that. And then see what. Like no, I just, I just.
Speaker 1:
And what comes with being a stay at home wife. Like am I now under your control? Like, absolutely so. He don't want to do chores, no more, you got to go. Well, he got to do the manly chores, but you got to do the other stuff. No, no, See, this is the thing.
Speaker 1:
A lot of stay at home wives they take on the manly chores too. Like they cutting the lawn, they taking the trash out. No, I'm so for real, because the man spends his time making the money. He's still a man, but he is the sole provider of the home. So you make your of the house, you make your own. I only know like three stay at home wives and none of them take trash out, cut grass or any of those yard things. It is the same. I'm just going to pass a woman outside cutting her lawn and blowing the leaves off the grass herself. What if you live by yourself? No, she don't live by herself, because you got a two car driveway and it's two cars in that driveway. You don't live alone. Her grown son, he don't do it. It's still going to get out there and do the womanly duties, I mean, do the manly duties.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, I'm not saying these things. Don't stay at home wives, do not come over and grab that grass. That's. That's that. Niggas today don't even want to want you to do anything, even if you're still paying bills, like, like there is no Okay. So they don't want to do their own laundry, cut the grass. They rather hire somebody. I don't matter that if you got the bread to do it Exactly and a hundred thousand K and you take care of both of us, you don't have the money. You don't have the money for this. So now I'm out here cutting fucking grass, shoveling snow, breaking leaves. Never the fuck, my, I don't write so many leaves. I'm putting this bag that I got a hole in it now and it leaves us back over the lawn and now I have to do it again. No, I'm not doing that with my life. I'm not doing that with my life.
Speaker 1:
I mean, I grew up I grew up for a personal time with a stay at home. Mom and my dad still did majority of the art stuff Like pick up sticks and shit, and see, I just I just keep thinking about, first of all, personally being a stay at home. Why sounds like, help me, let's just get that out there. But if I say, okay, babe, fuck it, I'll be a stay at home wife or whatever, there's still some things I mean. What if we have a big ass house? I can't reach up there. So I want to hire me somebody to cut the grass. Okay, I need to hire somebody to cut the grass. What if we have a pool in the back? Okay, I need a pool guy. These are added. Those are things that you guys probably already paying for anyway. Right, but now you got to take care of me as well.
Speaker 1:
I just don't, I don't, I don't think that's a good trade off. 100k is not enough for me to be okay with being a stay at home life. No, it's not not for me myself. Yeah, 250,000 dollars, okay, talk about something. I can consider it for sure. That's a conversation you know you making and and that's with us keeping the way we're living now, not upgrading to a 250,000 dollar income lifestyle, right, but no, you make 100k and we, right now, we are living. 98,000 dollars is what we spend a year and you make 100k. That doesn't mean that I can't work. I thought I had the room to not work, right, because she go wrong all the time.
Speaker 1:
And then just think and think of the grunt work, of what it takes to be a stay at home wife, is almost like you have to really consider like, okay, you make 100k a year, so if I'm a stay at home wife and I do this and this and this and this and this and this, is it worth 50k a year? No, bitch, I'm ready, I'm ready to go to work. I think that might be more bang for my buck. At least a couple of dental plan, a life insurance, okay, like, no, listen, now, if I'm gonna stay at home, wife, then I'm on your benefit. Okay, true, start there, and then that's just gonna raise how much you gotta pay a month for the Exactly. So now that's coming up like now we can go to Cancun this year.
Speaker 1:
Fuck that, I'm taking my ass to work, even if it's a little part time gig. I'm a lady. Oh, okay, do it, or do it back to knives. What do you want? Oh, how to back this. I think we all got seriously. We need to hire a lawyer cuz they got us. Yeah, I need, like I Don't know, 45 bucks or something. I need something 50 plus my bus fare, cuz I wasn't fucking driving the job before the interview was even, yeah, I was the first right, I went home and I was like and I was on my own at that point. I was like Possible, get hired to promote it all in the same fucking interviews. Yes, oh, my goodness, yeah, no, no, go work for me. I can't be a sale on life for a hundred thousand dollars.
Speaker 1:
You go ahead to up to Annie, and then I would like all right, yeah, this is something that I can do, and what's the benefit of that? I mean I sit in the house all day anyway, so I'm not really mad. But now I'm going grocery shopping and I mean I suppose to do that anyway, but like, no, thank you, it's a sound, appealing and today's economy, $100,000 we don't get good at far at all, really. One person, yeah, realistically, I feel like you know, if he asked you to stay at home, he's probably being just a little over zealous about what he can provide at this point Back down the earth. Baby, yeah, you know, I appreciate the thought, but I don't think we're gonna be able to do too much with that.
Speaker 1:
Me personally, I Think of things that I want that cost a lot of money, that I just will work towards mm-hmm, and we can't do that if I'm not working. Yeah, like I'm too independent. I'm sorry, but Every time I need money I need to call you. Hey, babe, can you put $500 in my account? I'm not fucking doing that. Well, you have his account, is you know? But I mean I need my own. I'm sorry, it's not his, you guys's account. Is it's joint pain tech joint, not his paycheck. It's both of your. No see, that's where the game get fucked up. No, it's not. Yeah, it is. That's all supposed to be anyway.
Speaker 1:
If you, if you're a stay-at-home wife, you guys you are both at your own Lines of jobs and duties or whatever, and your partners working for one thing. So if he, his paycheck goes back to the house because you're running the house, he can't run the house. Yeah, so am I being paid for taking care of house? You buy whatever. You buy what you want, what you need, within within reason, obviously, of what you guys can afford and what is there for the house. Just like he should do the same thing. Just cuz he working in on me, he can go buy a Corvette. You can't go buy a Corvette. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, no, but you still.
Speaker 1:
If you regularly get your nails done before that, then you still get your nails done. You still get your hair done the way you got your hair done before you. You know me cuz all that sounds fine, cute and nice at the beginning and then it turns into all right, you know it's when went from 150 To 250 dollars. What are you doing now? I don't have this extra money to put out. You know we gotta pay for this and we gotta pay for that as the bookkeeper. You should know that you know it, from a hundred dollars to hundred fifty dollars, and then you're just talking about that.
Speaker 1:
This is why, no, I would rather not have to have that conversation with you and just talk to myself and be like, damn, you know someone, from a hundred to a hundred, get, get them a little shorter next time and just keep it moving. I have to have that conversation. I think that's the problem. I don't want to have to explain or ask for permission or Anything like that throughout the whole thing. But I got some relationships. You kind of have to do that anyway.
Speaker 1:
Why not work? But like, no, it's a yeah, like it's a partnership. See, I should always be on the same page. So see, I just don't like the risk of also it being a power struggle as well, like he trying to. He's, you know, at the end of the day, he the one who make the money and I just don't. I don't even want to allow somebody to try to throw that in my face. Well, it's my right, right, I'm making right. Like, don't see, bitch, no. And then you have, you make a hundred thousand dollars today. Who's to say you don't get fired tomorrow? Yeah, who's to say you go lose your job down the line and now we have to start from scratch, like we have to now go out and try to find a job.
Speaker 1:
After I got comfortable in this stay-at-home life lifestyle, now I'm going back to work. I hate my job, I hate coming home, I hate you now because you don't have, you're not able to maintain what we had in the beginning, the arrangement that you asked me for, right, and it's not like we really had enough saved. Exactly live life the way we've been living it before. If you just all the same love to your job, go from I'm making fifty four thousand dollars a year to now I just got it the biggest promotion and I'm Manager ahead this that the GM of something, and I'm now making six figures.
Speaker 1:
Now we're gonna do this. No, we're not doing that immediately. Yeah, no, we, we should have. We have to have stuff locked away and say, cuz stuff really does happen all day, every day. I don't know where it's enough for me. Negative people have those people where a hundred thousand dollars is like they could feed a family of four with that. Yeah, and I'm not knocking it here in Pennsylvania, where we are in Philadelphia region, in Delaware County. Yeah, that's not something that's not possible. So, yeah, it's good for where you are. Thank you for watching. Taking it, we were gonna talk about 1111 Chris Brown's new album, but we have the food. So, with that being said, thanks for watching. Like, follow, share the video on the next video on a page comment video.