Ever felt compelled to say yes when you really wanted to say no? Are you always on the edge, trying to appease everyone around you? Today, we're breaking down the often misunderstood and detrimental behavior of people pleasing. Unpack the five ways this behavior manifests in our lives, from the realms of comedy to the subtleties of our relationships. We highlight how, under the guise of making others happy, we might be stunting our own growth and stepping into the snare of chronic dependency. You'll also understand how apologies sometimes serve as an escape route from accountability.
Journey with us as we navigate the tricky territory of setting boundaries, a daunting task for those of us hardwired to please others. We talk about the audacity of some folks demanding our time and energy when we're already at our limits, and the importance of prioritizing our own needs. We end on a note of positivity, emphasizing how surrounding ourselves with the right company impacts our well-being. Get ready to reassess your tendencies for people pleasing and the power of a well-placed 'no'. Tune in today, you won't leave the same!
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And we thank y...
Ever felt compelled to say yes when you really wanted to say no? Are you always on the edge, trying to appease everyone around you? Today, we're breaking down the often misunderstood and detrimental behavior of people pleasing. Unpack the five ways this behavior manifests in our lives, from the realms of comedy to the subtleties of our relationships. We highlight how, under the guise of making others happy, we might be stunting our own growth and stepping into the snare of chronic dependency. You'll also understand how apologies sometimes serve as an escape route from accountability.
Journey with us as we navigate the tricky territory of setting boundaries, a daunting task for those of us hardwired to please others. We talk about the audacity of some folks demanding our time and energy when we're already at our limits, and the importance of prioritizing our own needs. We end on a note of positivity, emphasizing how surrounding ourselves with the right company impacts our well-being. Get ready to reassess your tendencies for people pleasing and the power of a well-placed 'no'. Tune in today, you won't leave the same!
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Intro Lyrics
It’s Medium Ghetto
Intelligent, hood conversations, so why don’t come hang with the gang
Relatable topics, form coming up broke to the nonsense that all come along with these dames
From trust funds to trappin’, we cover it all, and with laughter
So, why don’t you come grab you a seat
From o’s to Othello, you know that we Medium Ghetto, and nothing can even compete
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It’s Medium Ghetto
And we thank y...
and Welcome back to the medium ghetto podcast. What's your host, your mar. Today we got special guests in the building.
Speaker 2:They're gonna.
Speaker 1:Yeah, she, she here, she here, back again the day we got a treat for you. We're gonna be talking about the five ways. You maybe be maybe people pleasing why, what's with the?
Speaker 2:Tough subject.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think I think we all, especially like our entertainers and Other people, were like, naturally, people pleasers. You want everybody to have a good time and stuff. Yes, I think I think we like what we don't want to think it's bad because we think, since I'm also happy, it's good. I think I were. I was reading like Kevin Hart book and it was about people pleasing and how, like people pleasing you know it translates great in comedy. But what happened was Like a run as a marriage shot the Kevin Hart. I didn't mean to put him on front street shot the Kevin Hart. I appreciate you, but we're gonna jump right into it, right? So first one is this this is one of the first reasons why you, a people, please be gone. Talk so difficulty saying no, like who on his live has challenges saying no.
Speaker 2:I do personally why, because I don't like disappointing people.
Speaker 1:You know what? How does it feel? Now I get it For me. I'm getting, I'm just getting over saying no. You don't ever feel like when you say yes to everything, it you just you do bad at everything because you don't. You're too stretched, like then.
Speaker 2:Yeah, a little bit. I Mean, I manage it like I. I prioritize my people pleasing. I just add it to my list of other things that I need to do well, what about you? I Get there eventually.
Speaker 1:Maybe give yourself your last.
Speaker 2:I feel like I need I need to relax now, spate on this energy, making sure somebody else doesn't go through it. I don't want anybody around me to go through it.
Speaker 1:I see what you're saying. So you don't. You just don't want them to the field if everything falls through. Don't want them to feel disappointed, because they apparently they need you right right. You know as a crazy subject. You ever like help somebody and no matter what is goes wrong.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:I Heard a good saying. People said, someone said you can't. You can't save people from their own karma.
Speaker 2:You cannot. You know some people just, no matter how much you help them, it doesn't have anything to do with you Per se. Like some people, like everything that they touch turns to shit and you can't change that yeah, you can't that's just this redacted, or the trajectory of their life.
Speaker 1:Exactly Anything I mean I like stories at all you've had for people is a million.
Speaker 2:I do it every day. It's my whole life.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, give me, give me example.
Speaker 2:I mean personally, I kind of take on the Matriarch role of my family. Everyone, everyone comes to me first, so it's usually like a juggling of alright, who am I taking care of right now? Who needs this? Like? Oh Gosh, where do I start?
Speaker 1:give me sign.
Speaker 2:Okay, I like what noise me the most is. I'll think about, like a Few relationships ago, arguments that I had with my significant other that I didn't even have to have because I didn't even have to help the person like, like, like, taking my sister to work, she can go to work. I don't want to get fired, but she's supposed to make sure she go to work.
Speaker 1:Yeah, she signed the paper saying yo, I can make it here at this time, this time Segway being in the human resources. If you're late is your fault. And one thing that happened to me I remember. I was like relationship and this person is Habitually late I'm used to person was not late and they kept making me late and one time I caught myself blaming them and I was like no niggas, your fault.
Speaker 2:We don't have a home. You let, you let them make you late one thing you have to realize when you a people please, there is that They'll figure it out.
Speaker 1:We'll figure it out.
Speaker 2:They will figure it out, and if they don't, there's their life and their consequences. It does not. It doesn't affect you.
Speaker 1:Now you take like you take their groan away when you say like yes to everything.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you do so like you, stunt them, because then they expect somebody to come through for them For everything. Is that I don't come with you for themselves.
Speaker 1:I really like see cold dependency.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah.
Speaker 1:You remember what a pimps needs to be actually about cold dependency. You never watch that I don't remember you know the bulldogs.
Speaker 2:What do you say?
Speaker 1:He said oh no, chronic bitch dependency wasn't cold dependency, which is the same thing is. Don't have chronic bitch dependency, guys, which is a ruin your life. It'll still your money. It ruin your finances. It'll take everything from you to chronic, chronic bitch dependency.
Speaker 1:That constant people pleasing and Tom had to learn not to be a people pleaser just for his wife. He did, yeah, cuz he kept saying sorry when he needs to say sorry, but she we gonna get a certain more juicy or it out go Accessibly apologizing. I want to say this, like artistically at work, and I think she's getting her ass whooped at home, but I'm not gonna say names cuz she's always saying sorry to the point where I'm like stop saying sorry to me. She says sorry, but here's the thing is I think it's a cop out to take any accountability, cuz I asked her to do something.
Speaker 1:She didn't do it and she kept saying sorry to the person that our partner it was and she's like I'm so sorry, I gotta do this, I'm so sorry. I'm like you only had the focus for 30 minutes to get one task done. You didn't do it and you kept copping out by saying sorry and you think. I think she thinks, when she says sorry, people like, oh well, don't worry about it, we don't want you to feel that way, right, so they can like gaslighting, but she don't know she is.
Speaker 2:That's. That's some events thought right there. You might be right about that.
Speaker 1:Cuz there's no way you was thinking this is okay to say I'm sorry to everything.
Speaker 2:You think you're gonna get away with it, but I mean, it could also be you like a trauma response.
Speaker 1:You gotta be, I don't know, somebody in her part of her own, probably something for my parents.
Speaker 2:Yeah, remember a long time ago when I was a kid, like anytime I was like I thought I was about to get in trouble or I was like gonna get in trouble. Where I did something, I was smile and Nobody ever called me on on it, except for this one lady, like early, early, early. Who's a care? She was like why you do that? I was like what, why do what? She was like every time you about to get in trouble, you smile and I was like I Don't know. But after I thought about it I was like as far as I want to get slapped, so you can't hit somebody who's mine.
Speaker 1:I mean you can't hit somebody. But that's crazy. That's your cop out, what's my cop out. Why should be a sorry person like alright, let's say yo y'all girls is me. So I remember I was like really shit, and it was the point where the only way to get this person shut up doesn't say so, I apologize for it, and you know damn where you ain't wrong.
Speaker 1:Yeah but you need them to shut up, yes. Or let's say you, you have work, you know boss, like oh, I didn't really appreciate that bossy block and it's like you, but I know you're right. And then they don't. They keep going on on. But you, I'm sorry, that's it. And these dip and and then, like it's the point where it only way for some people to feel like they got somewhere in conversations for you and say so, you're sorry instead of actually Coming to an agreement about, you know, a good resolution for an issue.
Speaker 1:It's just that I apologize in a way and then you don't like. You don't need the apology most of the time, but you got to make sure people know they wrong right. I want you to say sorry.
Speaker 2:I want you to hear what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:I think some people like learn the hard way, and by you saying I'm sorry too much, in that one hard way You're broke up with somebody. You need to be the person that break up with them. So you learn a lesson.
Speaker 2:Yep, yes, and I feel like if they apologize, then Everything is cool, everything is alright and coup aesthetic. Whatever I did wasn't that bad, because I apologize and they took me back. Yeah, I.
Speaker 1:Don't listen to apologies like that. I don't care for no apologies. But um, let's get to one another one let's talk about and knowing your personal needs. I do this a lot. Oh, I've done this a lot and I've stretched. I've been stretched thin a lot, to the point where I got anxiety from my finances being damaged. And I'll say you ever gave extra, extra money that you needed to get ahead, or the maybe pay off a credit card, they help someone else, and then they pay you back two or three weeks later. Then they said they would yep, and now you're in a financial blind by yes could you put yourself last?
Speaker 2:a couple times. I had the one very early on. That's one thing that I will say no about. I don't have it. Don't ask me for nothing and I might say that I'll give it to you, but maybe I won't.
Speaker 1:Because they never give it back on time they don't.
Speaker 2:Somebody money it's Generally don't expect it back Like I. If I don't have it together, that I don't give it, and if I give it to you, then I had it together.
Speaker 1:Exactly you, you kind like it's spent it is what it is, and if you get it back as a bonus.
Speaker 2:Yep, if I get it back as a bonus. If I don't, then I spent it. I was gonna spend it anyway, most likely anyway.
Speaker 1:Glad to help you. I'm glad to help you but yeah, ignore personal needs.
Speaker 2:That's the kind of hits a little closed on right now because I've been Practicing that. My mental health is like a garden that.
Speaker 2:I take care of and tend to and water and make sure I have lots of sunlight, and Allowing other people to come trash my garden with there and leave their jump behind, dry it out or, you know, take things I am. It's not healthy. So I've been letting somebody Come trash my garden or my mental health on a regular basis because they're going through some stuff and it's been hard for me to say look, I don't have it right now.
Speaker 1:Not damn listen to. What? Wait one second here? Yeah, exactly what's what's right here? Can you read this All right? What my man, eric comedy, say yo look better off the hook because I ain't got on no clothes, are my guy, eric comedy? You got me. I shouldn't even, I shouldn't even have said this. What I'm done, all right guys. So next one. What was that last comment you just said about people pleasing, because I just got my brain just shut down from that black bread?
Speaker 2:I saw you over here stewing at it. It was the yoy in the beginning.
Speaker 1:Yoy, you got a freak boiling the comments.
Speaker 2:I'm cracking up. No, I have a friend who, like is going through, is going through things, and they, like home, sprinkle negativity throughout my day. A lot like a lot. They just don't want me all day for everything, Every little inconvenience in their life, and I mean I mentioned it already in like a different context than that person and Something was supposed to be done about it. But it didn't last that long and I'm like, look, I can't even answer back right now.
Speaker 1:Hang on, you can't take it, no more.
Speaker 2:No, and I can't. I can't just be like to the person that, look, you don't have to tell me everything. Every time you are irritated, you don't have to tell me about it. You could keep it to yourself. I don't, I have my own stuff going on. I don't have it.
Speaker 1:What's your pride? What is your practice? You practice a minute irritation. I don't know, because I don't know how people can be irritated all the time. All the time I can see that I'm irritated a lot more than people realize, just from other people being irritated though the irritation circle. You like, you get it.
Speaker 2:I don't want it past to me. I have. I'm a positive person, I like to look up at things and I like for my day to have sunshine. I'm trying, and somebody come in constantly ringing on my break. We don't have to have a serious conversation soon, but I'm a people pleaser, so let them. So you they need to tell somebody. So I guess it's just me, I guess that's just my job in life.
Speaker 1:But all right, let's go back, let's combine some of these one and three, right? So have you ever, or have what has been, a situation when you had like you know you're working like five days a week, you're working a bunch of hours Do you sacrifice yourself to your time to help others, when you know you should be relieved and stressed and and take care of yourself? Do you ever like just sacrifice, help others?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I do Still a lot. Not as much I don't now that I'm getting older, I'm getting better and better at ignoring phone calls and text messages and Facebook calls and all that stuff. If I, if I don't feel like doing anything, if I'm leaving my house, I'm not, so I just don't answer. But if they catch me, if I answer the phone or if they catch me outside, then I'm stuck. I got to do it.
Speaker 1:So you set boundaries at all. Have you got like a list of ways you set boundaries or boundaries list?
Speaker 2:Setting boundaries for me is not answering. I don't have the boundaries, it's just straight up ignore they. I mean they get the picture, but I don't. I don't set the boundaries.
Speaker 1:What do I do for boundaries? Oh, I say no a lot more. Shout out everyone I said no to last week. Y'all still mad at me. No, but like I can't do everything, I realized and I can't do everything. Well, the thing about like this you know, we got on the YouTube and I'm going to school and I got three classes at a time. Right now I'm taking like nine credits. Right now I'll take a nine credits a class. Go to school, whatever I got, got like a whole full time job and I do a part time bartending and I got a business. Where do I have to actually spare time?
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:So if I want to do everything of all, do things well and actually pass by classes, do good at work because I'm not tired, I need to say no to them.
Speaker 2:You do. Where do people find the audacity to ask you to do things when they know you got like 80 things on your plate? That's what bothers me the most. Like people we have unlimited free time and be in an F up situation and then will bother you that they're bothering you because they know you do things and now you're busy and you probably have extra income or you probably have extra materials, and they'll really come and be like I need this for me, even though you know I could probably do it myself or figure it out myself.
Speaker 1:I just don't like it when somebody got like a baby dad at something or a significant other and they'd be like, oh, can't ask them, what was your fucking mean? You can't ask them. Or you know. I mean like they have other people before you just know, you're the easy one.
Speaker 2:Yes, yep, they do. You're the easier one. The deal was very true, the people that ask me for stuff, sometimes like everyone's in a while, somebody will like two strands down, message me and be like oh so on. So say hey, from jail you got $20. Nah how did you get to me Like it should be at least 100 people. I mean they probably they're gonna with their hundred people, I don't know, but it should be like 100 people between you and asking me for $20.
Speaker 1:All right, first of all, accountability. Why did you put yourself in jail? I understand, like certain black man, we catch what something might happen. We might be in the wrong, wrong situation, wrong time, right, and we go to jail. We might get framed, we might get our daily. That's why I might mistake this with someone else. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:That should go like.
Speaker 1:I mean and the movies and do, that's what counts. But then magically happens and you didn't sell crack to people, moms, and ride people or any kind of crazy felony charges. You know like I'm sorry that happened to you. But if you did all those things and you've been selling on the block, you know you did some crazy stuff. You know you popped at your homeboy, right, you kind of deserve your over, I'm just saying right.
Speaker 2:No, I think that's what I have to fund those activities.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's actually me promoting the wrong activities. I'm causing you to think it's cool to do that. Oh, you know I don't like to. It's about as long as a pet peeve thing, right. I don't like the fact that we always reward people who go through these crazy struggle situations that they created and we honor them. I know you've been through so much man, whatever you need, you know what I'm saying. But the person who's just trying to try to make it you don't help at all.
Speaker 2:None, they don't get no help. People who do what they're supposed to do every day gets no love.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think it's a hero syndrome. I think a lot of people have hero syndrome. That's what, like, one of the validation points of like, seeking constant validation is. And which is the next point, is your, your seeking and you want to be a hero. You want to feel like you're the person who's in charge, like all some real stuff, like I even see what people ask me to help with events or they want they. You know they, they see in their, in their eyes. They see the right thing is helping people, but it's really just feeding their ego. Now, if I gave I fed a bunch of homeless people and all I do is talk about how I fed the homeless people, I'm seeking validation. If I did something I know my boss is going to like.
Speaker 2:Who called it? It's different numbers.
Speaker 1:Oh my God, they probably asked for stuff. We got her in the studio and asked for stuff. Oh, or like. I lost my own dream thought. But with that being said, like you, like you don't need approval from everybody. Sometimes you got me people mad. You always get an approval. Let's hold social media generation, all right. Constant validation is all the likes, all the shares. You get all this constant validation, which is like a bad, a really really bad thing as a line.
Speaker 1:It's addictive. So now you're buying new outfits, look good on social media, guys and girls, they get more and more likes, and now what you keep doing is everything's for the light and what someone says you're not cool or something like that Okay, so it's how I'll be. They go straight the other end, like oh, no one likes me, bro. You had one dislike the whole time.
Speaker 2:But, or if you're not getting some amount of attention that they used to from strangers, what does that tie into? People pleasing? You know what?
Speaker 1:Because I'll talk to me people when you get that you're pleasing people and you're, which fills your ego.
Speaker 2:You know what's crazy? There's this guy I've been watching on TikTok and he cooks he's really good at cooking from like Dallas house or something like that, and the one day I like went onto his page I usually have to see his videos on my 40 page and the one day I went on to his page and I found his YouTube, so I was like being around his YouTube and I saw that he had like Gastric bypass a few years ago and he was talking about how he lost like a hundred pounds and all this stuff and it just made me think I was like, oh goodness, I'm like so he had, you know, like life-changing surgery. His pictures before after were like insane and I'm like Now he's getting all this new clout on TikTok from cooking.
Speaker 2:Hmm like cooking big southern meals every day. I'm like. I Hope he doesn't like revert back. You know what I mean. Happens to yeah, but just because he's getting all this attention from like, he's like near a lot of food every day but he might not, he couldn't be eating it, he could not even. I don't know.
Speaker 1:But I'm alive. I was making money from tic-tac-pother. I should away.
Speaker 2:But it takes, you know, I mean like it takes self-control and discipline to like Separate yourself from the things that you're cooking every day. Now, you know, I mean, yeah, and then I, was it? Just worried, I don't know why. It just bothered me and I was like, oh, nothing you know happens to him. You know, I hope he's able to stay strong, and you know what I mean, that stay on the right path. Oh Cuz, it's really hard to even get that surgery. So but anyway, long story short, like a couple weeks ago he had posted Something that something went wrong in his life and then it turned out that the guy he was dating they like broke up and I was like I Don't know if I has anything to do it, you know his newfound tic-tac fame or not, but I just find it weird that I like I felt like someone was gonna be wrong and then Him, his boyfriend, broke up.
Speaker 1:Obviously, I don't know the man, so I don't know why, but I think, like With being with a spouse, you could be seeking validation a lot, and if you got like, let's say, you eat good, it's built from like social media, and then you like you don't want me, motherfucker, that don't want me man, how the fuck you're the only person who don't fucking with me. It must be me and you know must be something around with you. So then you start questioning Um yourself because somehow one person don't but agree with you true.
Speaker 1:Shoot. I'll see you all the time now. So I think YouTube is the best spot. If you watch on YouTube, shout out the people on YouTube. Shout out people on Facebook Appreciate you. If you can pitch your names and then comments, I'll shout you out. But would that be a set like so many people like they, we seek validation and it's holding the healthy ways like, let's say, you're gonna do a lot of stuff you really shouldn't be doing for yourself, like you should with like alright, let's say, guys, right, we could seek validation from a girlfriend a lot. We can overspend every guys I've seen overspend on a girl who actually like just left them alone. You imagine, like you, you empty your bank account like 25 bucks in the week. You try to survive because you want to take your own dates to the impressor. That's seeking validation.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it is or stand extra for your volume on salary job and you stand extra to impress your boss, yeah, and then they you imagine if they like, chose someone else to get the promotion because they had a backbone and they like Motherfucker dang yeah, I actually happen. Actually was a.
Speaker 2:You know what? Another part about seeking validation when I was younger and I was like I would literally run around for everybody all the time, like at least one full day off was just Running errands for my cousins or my brother or my sister, somebody, a friend, and I Was talking to my uncle about it and I'm like you don't have to do anything for anybody because nobody looks to you for anything. But I'm like how, like, when I die and people come to my funeral like that's what I want them to say, like that they Always couldn't depend on me for anything. That's what's important to me. I don't know what's important to you. Did you do nothing for nobody? I don't know who you expecting. I haven't had your funeral. Who's going? Do your plans? But there shouldn't be people fighting over doing my plans.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I said you saying, but you know it's gonna be crazy. Nobody gonna be at your funeral Because even they really didn't hear about you.
Speaker 2:Right, not all of them, but I'll say like people.
Speaker 1:I'll say like five percent leader, they're also gonna get off of work. I could see it, we getting more jobs by the minute, but like we can go to the next one, right yes it's a good one avoiding conflict at all Call calls. I would do this. I would agree with you, knowing Dan, right Damn well you're, you're stupid. Just so we wouldn't continue the conversation. And but you write absolutely is leave.
Speaker 2:Is that my various thing?
Speaker 1:Oh my god cuz we're but. I did hear from somebody. I was like I heard a quiz. Are people pleases? I'm like nah.
Speaker 2:I don't know. No, not that people pleases, that people are just dumb and you just be annoyed being around stupidity oh yeah, you just did, you like just check out. There's no point in me. You know I'm gonna understand my explanation.
Speaker 1:Like I, like you know, I like hanging around the type of people like hanging around the positive people who don't mind talking like you, can talk about positivity. What another person who talks about positive you have to talk for hours, definitely, but when you talk about positive is someone who just focuses on dumb shit. They don't get mad at you because they don't. That's not what you talk about. That's not their expertise. No, your expertise is dumb shit.
Speaker 2:They can't identify minor and dumb shit.
Speaker 1:But like you, got an expertise in them, so you major in dump shit.
Speaker 2:Don't say it's struggle. Yeah like only identify with struggle and Only when I talk about that. I'm like that what struggle?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't want to either, because, like you ever heard, like you will become like the Five closest friends next to you. And then they actually had a survey where they showed that if you, if you sit in the room, what a high achiever you get, your performance will go up 15% Just from being there, but there you would decrease 30% by being near someone who's underachieving.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:And I highly believe that, because it will drain you eventually.
Speaker 2:It does that rough off on you in the worst way.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm, because now you start to think of things you can do that are low achievers. They'll teach you how to be a little cheaper. They will. You're gonna stop batching your work. It was like get on your work. Well, I get make a list. You do all the work you did, usually doing a day in like two hours. You got more time to build the company. That's how achievers always you go through the whole day having a great day. One person is gonna be stuck on one thing for like two or three hours complaining about it. Manager says something they don't agree with, they're gonna whine about it and eventually it's gonna get to you.
Speaker 2:You know, at my job we're very. We were really small office and we're really choosy about.
Speaker 1:What's the name of you to chair yo Kyle name in the YouTube channel is the medium ghetto channel, so check out the medium ghetto channel. I got all my videos on there. They're really good. That's some controversial things. I even got a date and show called Um playing games. We're gonna start redoing that soon.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we are.
Speaker 1:It's gonna be dope. We might do it on, might do a live here, so you can, you can check us out. With that being said, back to the episode yes, dude. All right, so and the. Okay, can cocktail reviews check them out, we.
Speaker 2:I forgot to turn the comment off should have a new one coming up soon.
Speaker 1:If it wasn't no, tomorrow it was ours. But I don't know about that. I don't know what it's got. Eric comedy, but I think he's trolling me, because there's no way you're gonna spell no, like that and we just talk and then tomorrow, and then what? Yeah, then ours Was, it was ours, but I don't know about.
Speaker 2:All right bro, it should be Eric's anti-company, because you're not funny.
Speaker 1:Yeah, this is the border line harassment. Oh you on there, what's up? Oh cool, that's my brother, kyle. Yo, peace out. Let me actually get to the other part. Oh, my god, getting back. So maybe so much clicking going on, but back to avoid and conflict, I'm doing, I still. I'm still like this is what I'm doing right now, that's what I'm on, because I will literally be like you know that's crazy and walk away. Oh, that's what I said. I can't do it, no more. It's the point where someone's like really, really negative and really even negative. If I don't leave that run, I'll fuck, snap me. I get really aggressive About my headspace now.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I need to be on that time like I will cut you to fuck up. I'm not even more serious about it, but at the same time I'm not saying a whole lot and just not doing as much. I'm just doing more ignoring right now than addressing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, when certain people you know it's crazy, there's some whatever actually how you they was, and then they you've it. I think the old man sucks or something like that, and they are so happy to talk about how they do sucks. But they asked me and I'm like oh, I did this, this, this, this, this and this. They get upset cuz I talked too much now which I got. I just did everything for like a whole week. I got everything to talk about. Talk to anybody right.
Speaker 1:I just did three classes, did a bunch of investigations at work juicy ones and Then you expect and I've been on hinge and laughing at and I'm like some crazy shit, so it's a lot to talk about.
Speaker 2:I Was. It was somebody asked me how my day was, unless there was like Absolutely nothing positive and I was irritated for a good majority of the day. I generally always start off with the good stuff first, or I'll be like it was alright and then I'll go to the good stuff. I don't like this, even though I do have. Sometimes it is fun for me to talk about how irritating some people are. That's a joy of mine.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I do, you know, I mean, but it's okay to be low, but like you shouldn't just want to talk about that all the time now I Don't, I don't know, I don't really don't hang with people who are, who live sad, miserable lives. That's a good, that's a great idea.
Speaker 1:Yes, we have poverty mentality lack of abundance but, you know, really grinds my gears lately. You know us, you know being in the city of Chester. And then it's here everybody consume, will home come in just paying $10. It's only $10 for the kids, it don't matter what the money is. I've seen so many true comments like y'all go to the club and Y'all pay, like y'all lose like like 200 that night and the money's gone to the club. Well, we got to pay $10 and tell you money's gone to the kids. You get upset.
Speaker 1:Right and he's still gonna buy that $50 bottle and it's he buy every fucking where, and you gonna get drunk, you're gonna leave the shit on the floor and that's why I don't want to do. That's why I want this one would sit up homecoming it this year, to be honest.
Speaker 2:Do you have stairs and break it down? No, it's like it.
Speaker 1:What is your state like? What's your stuff? You got to pick it up and it's so. It's no one else there, right? And you, you're getting your tent, you're getting whatever else you got, and it's just hard and the spot is all over the floor. It fuck. Your car tires up and, like people are not, they're still partying. My focus goes out there like four hours since the gaffet of games open.
Speaker 2:They definitely wait.
Speaker 1:You're one such. After I come home.
Speaker 2:Nope, I didn't even know there was a game. I thought it was just the people at the tents.
Speaker 1:And now they have no whole game the whole time. Most of the people don't, can't, don't go in by a ticket, so they just ask everyone who's partying to buy a ticket. And so proud.
Speaker 2:People are poor in chief. That's all I could say. It's $10. I Don't even you don't even think about $10. It's going so fast. Like $20 is a dollar nowadays, so $10 is like 50 cent.
Speaker 1:That's like to. That's like two items at the store.
Speaker 2:It's $10 to get money out our hairs like god damn, that is insane. I haven't been. I haven't been to homecoming once and I mean I don't really belong there because I didn't graduate from Chester how you graduate from the.
Speaker 1:You went to Chester. You graduate from Oslo's.
Speaker 2:They want to test the high shoot.
Speaker 1:So you came from the polka nose down here.
Speaker 2:No, I came from here and then went to the polka nose and then came back.
Speaker 1:Oh, it was like the border school.
Speaker 2:I want this monthly and till a free. And then I dipped because, chester, I said I couldn't come there.
Speaker 1:Why what you do apparently too much stuff.
Speaker 2:I submit, Lee. I don't know.
Speaker 1:Hey, you expelled, did you go to like a personal school? No, I don't know the such things, the present school, but imagine he probably got a present school out there.
Speaker 2:No, I went to Tech school and I did pretty well.
Speaker 1:Must be nice. I went to Chester high and I ditched two years. I ditched two years of school and still pass. Yo, you was funny. Ninth and great. Ninth and great only came from midterms or finals and I didn't have summer school and all my days with the school for like three, fourths a year. It still has some school Like I am with the school the whole time. It's doing this summer school. I love you. I still think that's funny child left behind.
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