Spirituality and PUssy 🐈‍⬛ Power 💥

The power of femininity and sexuality intertwined with spirituality is an enigma worth unraveling. Our dynamic guest, Sammy Good Soul Sam, takes us through her inspiring journey of self-discovery and spiritual energy, shedding light on the potency of establishing a relationship with one's body and viewing sex as a form of prayer. Her bold, insightful perspectives on "pussy power" serve as a beacon for self-healing, empowerment, and self-expression.

Brace yourselves as we traverse through Sammy's unique approaches to sexuality and relationships. Her story illuminates how prioritizing self-love, investing in communication, and maintaining a spiritual energy balance can shape intimate experiences. Her emphasis on quality over quantity in sexual relationships, boundary-setting, and creating a safe space for sharing desires and experiences speaks volumes about her depth of understanding.

Ending on an empowering note, Sammy recounts her transition from her corporate life to hosting her transformative podcast, Almost Hilda's Fuck. Her experiences underline the significance of connecting with the right people and embracing vulnerability for personal growth and spiritual healing. With frank discussions on societal perceptions of women's sexuality, traditional gender roles, and the power of setting boundaries, this episode is an enlightening journey through complex gender dynamics, intimacy, and personal expectations in relationships. Prepare to be enlightened, to learn, to grow, and to challenge the way you perceive femininity, sexuality, and spirituality.

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:28

Welcome to the medium ghetto podcast with your host, jamar. Today we got a special guest in the building.

Speaker 2: 0:36

I'm.

Speaker 1: 0:36

Sammy Good.

Speaker 2: 0:39

Was it good soul, sam? Yeah, sammy, that's the new one, but I'll roll with it.

Speaker 1: 0:49

Sammy.

Speaker 2: 0:50

Good soul, sam. My full name is Samaria.

Speaker 1: 0:54

I'm from the Ohio County. That's Rock with Sammy then, so I know we met at the podcast summit.

Speaker 2: 1:04

Yes, I know that was a really dope event and I actually didn't even intend on going, so I just loved alignment like that. But yeah, I have a podcast with my boy at LaMaceo and the podcast is called almost Hilda's Fuck and we just kind of the other side of healing. I'm kind of tired of everybody acting like they have their shit together and none of us do and we're all triggered still, and that's what the podcast is about. We're having those conversations that, like you know, I'm trying to get better, I'm trying to show up better, I'm trying to heal my family trauma, I am trying to be more spiritual, I'm trying to tap in, but I don't know what to do or what that looks like. We have, like we're Richmond based, so we always bring on like Richmond entrepreneurs. We don't get to know that. I always tell people like, if you want to be on the show or you have something important to contribute, just hit us up.

Speaker 1: 2:07

That's work, that's dope. I wasn't thinking.

Speaker 2: 2:14

You want to know where I thought you were from, where I was like, I'm not sure.

Speaker 1: 2:20

I was like I'm not sure, I'm not sure, I'm not sure. You know what's funny.

Speaker 2: 2:27

You seem like more like a free spirit when I met you. She must be from California West Coast. Everybody says okay, I guess I could have guessed. You're a little too like really East. Coast but.

Speaker 1: 2:40

I mean it's born and raised, it's okay.

Speaker 2: 2:45

I mean what was it?

Speaker 1: 2:47

Pussy power.

Speaker 2: 2:50

Yes, in spirituality, I don't want to forget that piece of it. But yeah, just the interconnectedness of all of that, just women in our womb and the power behind our pussy and the prayer and spirituality and how all of that is connected and really divine when you think about it.

Speaker 1: 3:09

But I'm sure we'll get into it. Wait so that you say it was a pussy prayer.

Speaker 2: 3:13

Yeah, I say pussy power and prayer. They're like my three big pillars in my life and to me they're all connected, because they're all connected to swords. If you think about your, I don't wanna keep saying pussy, pussy, pussy, but it's just easy to say so, pussy, if you think about it pussy.

Speaker 2: 3:31

It's like it's a portal, like think about whoever you believe in, like wherever our spirits are conjured up and created. And it's a portal from that realm to, like, the physical right. Like that's what this, this is a tunnel, it's a portal and like and there's a lot of power in it. And I just don't think society it has this like women especially like really disconnected from you know that part of our bodies, and so that's a problem and so, yeah, and the prayer is involved, because that's a connection of source. We can get into it. But like, something really powerful for me is like even manifesting and affirming myself, like why I'm having my self love time and praying even then, like looking at sex as prayer, and that's all we were talking earlier about. Like spiritual girlies having more sex. I don't even think it's more sex, it's just better sex Because, like, we spend real time like with her.

Speaker 1: 4:29

You know, I see, so you're more connected.

Speaker 2: 4:33

Yeah, I'm connected and what she likes, what she doesn't like, what feels good, and even the parts of yourself that needs healing through, that like something for me. I can use an example like I didn't know how much I needed to be affirmed during sex you know what I'm saying and maybe because I felt like I didn't have enough of that growing up or like whatever the case may be, but like during sexy time, like for you to affirm me and like let me know that you see me, I mean I'm beautiful or you're proud of me for how hard I've been working, or whatever the case that is, and even if I'm not having sex with someone, like I'm telling myself that like I'm so proud of you girl, like you run this shit, you've been making money, like you know what I'm saying. So it's like y'all should you should have a relationship with your pussy, you know.

Speaker 2: 5:22

So you be so you're you don't know, I don't.

Speaker 1: 5:26

You know, you don't know that I'm joking.

Speaker 2: 5:30

It's 2023. You're right, I got questions to ask You're right.

Speaker 1: 5:34

So I asked a lot of questions. I got to ask. That was a load.

Speaker 2: 5:39

That was a big load there.

Speaker 1: 5:41

So all I want to know is, before we dive deep into everything you just said how did you get here? Like, were you like? Did you go like under a waterfall and some? Magical like pussy sprite taught you spirituality or-.

Speaker 2: 5:59

So what's really crazy is I've always been different, like and just like, really connected with nature and like listening to the birds and shit, and when, like, I really just pay attention to the world and the language of the world. And then I had a big breakup and that's usually like what is always like transformations, like I'm a heart broke and like now, who am I Like? Who is this person without this person? And then at the Sweet Love Sanctuary, they're on Instagram. But then I found Goddess Jessie and I started working with her and she has this whole program for women and she just started one for men where you can like just really tap in.

Speaker 2: 6:42

First, I did the heal myself program with her and that's like a sacred woman. I don't know if you've heard of it Queen of Fua but like yeah, I'll send you all that stuff if you ever want to like take a look at it. But that was really talking about womb healing and how, like we are the mother, like I think our place, women's place, like the society for God, like we're a matriarch, you know, and in sense, like we forgot. So, instead of being the ones who's calling the shots or who's kind of living in our femininity, we're out here like chasing shit. You know which is not okay.

Speaker 2: 7:19

So, yeah, that's what started. I started working with Goddess Jessie and there's other goddesses at the sanctuary and, like I was just with them in Atlanta this weekend and that, honestly, I mean it changed my life. It made me realize how powerful I was and I really don't like need anything or anybody else. The goddess always wins. Say it again Goddess always wins. That's what I was saying. Goddess always wins, goddess always wins. So that mindset is like really changed my life. And you know, I'm still on a program with her. I haven't, I don't have it all figured out and I never act like I do, but like the things that changed my life I just have to talk about.

Speaker 1: 7:57

So, with that being said, so you're more connected, right? Mm-hmm, man, somebody's calling me. Stop calling me at the wrong times of the podcast. Someone does that.

Speaker 2: 8:10

At least you have to do not disturb one. Yeah, I love it, you'd have been like oh, where'd you go?

Speaker 1: 8:16

No but so you're more connected like that. Are you like having more sex now, or is it more better sex?

Speaker 2: 8:25

Yes.

Speaker 1: 8:26

But it's not even more.

Speaker 2: 8:28

No, and you said is it poly?

Speaker 1: 8:30

No, is it more quality over quantity?

Speaker 2: 8:32

Yes, I might be having less sex now, to be honest, because when you're spiritual, like that's what I said it's better sex. It's not necessarily more sex because you look at sex as very, that's still super sacred you know, and there has to be intimate.

Speaker 2: 8:54

you know what I'm saying. Like I have to feel comfortable enough to explore. I don't want no basic boring aspects. My pleasure is a priority, like there's things. So it's just like I can't be out here just with anybody because, like then I'm not getting what I want. Like no. So not more sex, but better sex. And honestly, it's been like more with myself than anything, like me really just spending time being able to say, like yo, I really like that, like let me next time I'm with you, know home, or I'm gonna tell him to do this, or like talk to me like this, or whatever the case is. So I've been having a lot of self-love time. That's what I've been calling it self-love time.

Speaker 2: 9:35

And just like recognizing the things that I need so that I can even ask for it when presented.

Speaker 1: 9:41

I said what you're saying, so you're not like leaving it up to the partner.

Speaker 2: 9:46

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 9:47

You're gonna teach your partner what like communication on like what you prefer.

Speaker 2: 9:53

Right, right, and I also don't. I wanna be with someone, share that space with somebody who also isn't intimidated by that. Like I'm not gonna be like beating your ass, like do it like this, but like I want somebody to be right. But I was always like open, like tell me too, I wanna know what you like. Like have you spending enough time with yourself to know, like what you like? I don't sit here and think that you're gonna do me like you've been doing everybody else, Like you know it's a beautiful thing when it's done, right, yeah.

Speaker 1: 10:23

I've heard remind me of a saying I heard from like a sex therapist I know. She said don't touch a new body with knowing hands.

Speaker 2: 10:37

I like that. She know what she's talking about, or he? I don't know she, definitely she and she was like most of the time we like.

Speaker 1: 10:46

We're trying to guess what the other person likes based on like like an X.

Speaker 2: 10:48

You know what I mean yeah, that's not fair, don't yeah? So would that be the same moves like from homeboy, and just hope it works.

Speaker 1: 10:59

I hope it's John works how do you like this? Like yeah so you said it was also like another port, like it's a portal to a different world. Like how are you using this in your advantage, like when dating, or like listen, like, how are you doing this? How are you? What are questions? Probably better question what is pussy power?

Speaker 2: 11:24

pussy power is knowing that you can have whatever you want just because you have a pussy period. To me that's, that's what it is. It's knowing that, like I call the shots, my shirt, I make it on the good soul, company, calm, but it says, because I said so, like that's really enough. You know, I think women have been like taught to be of service way too much, and a good man will bring that out of you, of course, because as a feminine being, it's my, it's my nature to nurture, you know. But at the same time there there's something like, like I said, we're still a matriarch. Like I still call the shots, like I still have an opinion. Like it's not just about what you want, it's not just about what you say, and yeah, you're not going to tell me how to please my body. My pleasure is a priority here. Like it's not just about you getting your net off, like it's bigger than that. And I forgot the question, so I hope I answered it oh no, it was about.

Speaker 1: 12:27

Yeah, it was definitely answer. It was a. What was a pussy power?

Speaker 2: 12:31

oh yeah, you can have whatever you want, just because you have a pussy what are some?

Speaker 1: 12:35

where's the thing that you're like? What are some advantages that? Where are some things you're taking advantage using pussy power?

Speaker 2: 12:43

yeah, I'm just saying what I want, and not even regarding sex in general, women will literally dumb themselves down, like when men are around, it's it's the most crazy thing. But like, I even look back at times myself like there's things I've said and had another man in the room like everybody ignore me. And then a man says it and it's just like, oh yeah, and I'm like you guys, like y'all don't even hear us speak sometimes, you know. And again, I just saying what I want, standing on, what I believe in, knowing that, just because I feel this, that's enough. Like I'm, we're emotional as beings. That's just what it is. We got hormones, we got a vagina, we have all these things going on. We go through birth like I'm a mother, so my body definitely changed after that.

Speaker 2: 13:35

So, yeah, it's natural for me to have emotions. I'm not gonna sit here and be like my emotions okay. Well, yeah, I said this because I'm emotional. Well, I got emotions, like that makes sense and that's okay. I just think just standing on your shit, like I needed that. I was too passive, I was the people pleaser and it just it wasn't serving me. I wasn't getting anything that I needed for myself in life, because I'm so worried about giving to other people but, like, what's meant for me can't come to me if I'm focused over here, my energy is over here, you know yeah, you give me a, give the pussy power away yeah, I'm giving the pussy power away like keep some for yourself, sis, what do you want?

Speaker 1: 14:20

I think that's very important. You feel like for me like I think it usually usually have like reflection during a bad breakup, when you're really, really with that person for a really long time. You forget what you actually like to do and now you gotta figure out what you want to want, what you actually like to do. So it's like you know you've been dinner, lunch, whatever going to every place for the person and now you're not together. Now you're just like what do I do?

Speaker 2: 14:46

it is right, like I'm not even eating the same things because I know like when I cook, you don't like certain things that I like, so I'm not even buying these things. So for years I'm not eating this and I'm like, hold on, I really do fuck with broccoli. Like I actually do like broccoli broccoli is a shit. I like broccoli but you don't like broccoli and I haven't eaten in four years. That makes no sense like. But yeah, you gotta read it every yourself so do you like?

Speaker 1: 15:09

let me see, do you ever like I heard what was the same dark feminine energy before? What is like dark feminine energy?

Speaker 2: 15:20

to me the dark feminine is. It's like a sense of beautiful, like rage, you know, like where you don't have to say anything. You just carry this energy of like you know, like you know, it's like where I don't I don't have to say anything. I live in this like I call the shots energy and yeah, and there's some spiritual girls who are like love and peace and just sprinkle glitter dust on everybody, and there's some spiritual girls who are really in their dark feminine. It's like I'm not explaining myself, I'm not saying this, it feels off. It's off like you know, it's the. You can't talk to me this kind of way. Like, and honestly, like I don't have a lot of experience in the dark feminine because I am a rainbow and unicorn kind of girl. Like I see the sea, like sunshine and rainbows and everything. You know what I'm saying. But it's something really sexy about a woman too, like just quiet and don't say nothing. You can't help, but look at her, you know. So it's duality and everything.

Speaker 1: 16:25

I felt that one and so, because you're the, have you always been that way, like the rainbow sunshine?

Speaker 2: 16:33

yes, and even under my understanding myself as a goddess and knowing like that's not a bad thing, that's my superpower, because a lot of people can't maintain that energy all the time and I can't. You know, I used to get picked on and I didn't grow up like despite how I talk or act, like I didn't grow up in the suburbs, like I got picked on for the way I talk and I couldn't smiling too much and like playing with random animals like you feel like what the fuck she's weird.

Speaker 2: 16:58

Why is she always happy, like why she's talking like this, like that's me so you grew up.

Speaker 1: 17:03

You grew up in the hood hood adjacent, I ain't gonna clean it.

Speaker 2: 17:09

I go clean the projects my mama did. She stepped up from where she grew up but, like you know, it definitely wasn't but did you go somewhere? That I felt like they thrive as myself.

Speaker 1: 17:22

No you go to like a good school district no, and that's another thing.

Speaker 2: 17:27

She she didn't even let us go to the schools in our district and we still wanted us, like wanted a good school. She was driving us out the district to another school and that school still won't shit. Yeah, so it is what it is and I found my tribe. You know, people that, let me be me. I've always been a free spirit. I've always been with the shits too, like you know. So it just is what it is and I'm thankful that I did find a few people, because it really made me second guess myself, like something's got to be wrong with me, like everybody's all, like you know, me mugging and like mad and fighting and all this shit.

Speaker 1: 18:05

And I'm getting into fights because I'm too rash.

Speaker 2: 18:08

Where did you grow up? At Richmond Virginia.

Speaker 1: 18:13

I've never been to Richmond Virginia yet, but I know for sure the mayor when we're trying to do a taco festival there it won't let us do it because apparently it may have been like it's not a good good look. Apparently large crowds with alcohol and tacos may not be a good look.

Speaker 2: 18:33

Yeah, I mean, and especially in the city, and I'm not mad. I love Richmond, I love like, I love being around. I'm not saying everybody's ratchet, but I love like the ratchet shit, like I really do, and I love black people being in our element, I really do. But it's also a flip side to where, like, we don't need to be angry, let's be happy to.

Speaker 1: 18:55

Wait, wait, you got. Do you got ratchet feminine energy.

Speaker 2: 18:58

Oh, for sure, for sure. Come out, look all what we got to link up and have a few drinks and go out and you know you might have to be like why is Sam staying on the bar? Because I'm on the bar like I was called to the bar, somebody. Somebody needed this.

Speaker 1: 19:17

What are some misconceptions about? Like spiritual women, though?

Speaker 2: 19:24

I think the biggest is really that we're all like freaks and hoes and and Scallywags yeah, just scallywags. I almost need to Google that. I think what do you mean? But no, that's not that. I think, yeah, I don't, but yeah, you've heard it, so you know, okay, and that's not that. But I think a lot of us just love feeling sexy and but who doesn't, though?

Speaker 1: 19:52

like even guys. You want to feel attractive. You know a couple of men. We get a couple of men we like next 10 years we good.

Speaker 2: 20:04

But see, like sexy for y'all, it's different. Sexy is still like, for us at least. I'm a sweet for myself, because I don't know how other women feel sexy, but I feel sexy by feeling sexy with my skin out and my clothes on, like no bra on, like that's how I feel sexy. I love my body. I love my body.

Speaker 2: 20:24

We covering up my body does not make me feel sexy and at one point in time, like I did the whole streetwear thing and the big clothes and it worked for for that moment, but it wasn't me like I feel so much more powerful when I like walk somewhere and they're like damn, like, yeah, damn, and like you know and so approach me correctly, like but hey, I think just because of how you dress to how you act or even how you talk, doesn't mean you're whole, that doesn't mean like you're free, that doesn't mean you can get me. Just because I'm dressed a certain way and I got my jewelry and my waist speed, like it's for me, like my jewelry is protection, like everything has a meaning, you know, and men be thinking about them and I'm like poor little man. No.

Speaker 1: 21:12

This is about me. This is the fact that I can walk out here by myself and feel like I'm good and me.

Speaker 2: 21:18

Right and I'm protected, like I feel like you can sense the energy a little different, like you know, when you're around a free woman who's just a free woman in her own right. When you're around a woman who's like seeking male attention.

Speaker 1: 21:32

So do you think like our? Do you think there's like one, like spiritual woman who seek male attention? That's why they're dressing like that or like have you ever seek me like male attention?

Speaker 2: 21:47

I Personally, like I'm sure I have, but I'm not like to my own horn, but like, if anything I'm like, leave me alone. Like you know, I I you know bitches.

Speaker 2: 22:00

You know I do my thing and no, but like, really I um, a Lot of the men I encounter like their mind isn't where it would even need to be to deal with me. So it's just like Like I'm always nice, um, and that's also another reason men think that mean I want you. But it's like I'm just a nice fucking person. Like you come say hey, I'm gonna say hey back. I'm not one of them. Which is we be like move or like ignore you or like no, you think I look the whole thank you? I think so too. I appreciate it. Like you know, um, and I do love male energy around. I Always feel it when I've like like damn, I miss my guy friends, like I miss having that around, you know, but um, the more I know myself, the less I even care what Anybody thinks, let alone a man, and I'm not saying that in a bad way. I love men, but like I y'all can't be the ones like dictating my life.

Speaker 1: 23:00

I think I think that's fair and Like coming I, let's go, let's, let's get back a little bit, but name of the podcast, you have your honest call. The other half is on as well with them was a hilt as fuck. And let's get back to what. Like you know, healing is a journey and everything we know is continuous. You're always healing, you're always gonna go through things, but like have you ever felt when you got healed, you just didn't click with so many people at one point, like you're not. I think like the people who get healed have a lot less sex.

Speaker 2: 23:38

Yeah, that's how I said. I feel like like it's been led, it's more like one-on-one time Because you're a boundaries, you have boundaries now. Like you heal from something and then, like you notice a red flag, like I already know what you got to do and where the old, unkilled version of you would have been. Like okay, he called me pretty. Like the new version it's just like alright, what else you got? Like I know I'm cute, yeah, and you can always be triggered and that's something I honor to. Like my opinion might change, my beliefs might change, like I might get triggered and get into an old cycle. That might happen, you know, but it's okay because it's a process Never ending. You know you might hear a song and think about this me. You ain't never thought about it like four or five, six years.

Speaker 2: 24:31

Come on and and, instead of letting that consume you, being honest with yourself and and being able to say like, alright, maybe I'm not as healed because that song really brought me back, maybe I need to work on this a little bit more and give yourself some grace, like, yeah, but that's what I'm saying. Like that's what the podcast is about. Like I'm tired of the self-help saying like, oh, just go journal, you'll be good. Go meditate for a little bit. Like what the fuck is that even mean? Meditate on what? Like, let's talk about it, but was it was as well? Like I want to complain about being healed a little bit, a little bit longer here.

Speaker 1: 25:05

Come play. What you what? What are some things you just like. Damn me like it used to be.

Speaker 2: 25:15

I don't know.

Speaker 1: 25:15

This is like really like the grass is greener over here for me, like I'm, so you're saying like over here, I'm like, I'm saying like that, like the grass pairs a little bit more greener on now that you're a little bit more hill. Um Cuz you got a balance. Like you know, I'm saying I mean I can go back to the sex thing.

Speaker 2: 25:47

I could say that, like you know, I wish I could just Let somebody sign out and then go home and not think about it. But somebody sign out and then go home and not think about it, but like that's not me anymore. So it's times that like my body or like my hormones or whatever, might want something and and I said anymore, I just came out a really long, long term relationship. So I've never really even been out here. So, if anything, this is like what would have been a whole phase for me. But I'm like, so just I wanted intimate and communicative and like spiritual and all of that. They're like I'm just not out here and so that's okay. But it's a little. It's a little dry, like it's the dry season right now and it's fine, it's a little dry.

Speaker 1: 26:31

Do you believe a whole phase is actually even necessary?

Speaker 2: 26:35

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 26:36

And why?

Speaker 2: 26:37

and in some sense you can have a whole phase and like have a partner that you're exploring thing, but you have to explore, you have to like more like a sensual phase.

Speaker 1: 26:45

But should I not try to just be out here just trying to slay as many bodies as possible to get my sexual experience up?

Speaker 2: 26:52

If you're doing it in a Safe way, I say go for it. Like you don't want to be married, you know, because you did everything the right way and you stayed in this long relationship and you had the kids and you bought the house and you got married. And then you're like hold the fuck up. Like I Didn't do, like my. My husband is rigid, he don't want to explore, he don't want to try anything. The sex ain't cutting it for me. No more. It was fine when I was 20, but it's not good, no more. Like no, you need to explore, I think. And if you want to do that with a partner, then go for it. But there's so many ways that your body can receive pleasure. I refuse to believe that like You're gonna learn all that from one person.

Speaker 1: 27:28

Sorry, that's what you're saying and what that is that like? What was it so? It would you be dating men who may not be as sexually experienced as you? I?

Speaker 2: 27:43

Don't even think like. I wouldn't say I'm sexually experienced, I just like Can talk about it, and I think that is the problem. A men have ego that Prevent them from being able to talk about it like you, don't, not you and you can? Let me know how receptive do you think men are to like direction in the bedroom? Because Does it hurt you? It's like damn, she said she move over here. That means she ain't fucking with it and did it. I'm just gonna stop like I feel like this is spiral for you guys with a little bit of like direction.

Speaker 1: 28:16

I think it's bad for like men, who don't, who aren't like, who may be too much, and they feminine energy. You could say, yeah, they like they're. They're like off a balance when it comes, like the masculinity, because a guy will be like we got to be in the moment. You know me.

Speaker 1: 28:31

Yeah, in a moment we're not gonna say nothing. Yeah, like no, we we gonna say something. But you know, I mean we're not gonna like complain about it. I'm saying okay and like let's say, like the whole door, like sex thing, like I always tell the joke, if you want a man to promise you something, do it during sex.

Speaker 2: 28:55

Okay, look, that's what's it. Let me write down one down. Let me.

Speaker 1: 29:00

Met outside, but, you know, give me out industry secrets. I remember to this day, though, the main time I lied to her girl was door to sex, and she's she was like, oh, you promise you this, this and this, and I was like, yeah, just one, you know, I mean. Yeah, I know that the words, I was like fuck, I got, like I'm, I'm gonna get out of this one but oh.

Speaker 2: 29:24

I'm taking out my home.

Speaker 1: 29:26

Megan.

Speaker 2: 29:26

Megan expert car, where you read that.

Speaker 1: 29:30

So you know exactly At this point you're near what you've been looking for this whole time and. If you say no, you just like oh fuck.

Speaker 2: 29:45

Mm-hmm. I like that tip, though, and I think you know women take that home like and ask her what you want. That's what I'm saying like just because I said so. Like create, you can create your life. Like that's that pussy power, you know you just that something, that's that pussy power, like I can only do this because I have her. You know what I'm saying, so I can. That's what that is. I can get what I want, I can. Great, all right this is my thing, right?

Speaker 1: 30:11

I had a whole rant on my last. You Gotta look at my like my last life, right I had a whole rant on this right because so many people are just giving out pussy. The the vague has decreased. I honestly believe that, and what it has done is this I think, like pussy power has motivated Civilizations to be created Back in the day to get it.

Speaker 1: 30:35

I'm not talking about caveman days when you had the hitter. I guess we Gonna go we work. I don't believe we're caveman or always, but um, I'm Talking like we've been motivated to be the best, to get with the best.

Speaker 1: 30:49

Yeah and now Inside, like we, if we could just get it. We got what porn we all, well, only fans is porn. But we all these ways, the like sexual, get sexual, like energy, as men that expose that need. That I think it takes away and prevents us from actually like using the pussy power in our own way, you know, I mean yeah, and so for a man, how important is quality to you then?

Speaker 1: 31:15

It's. For me it's extremely important because, like, at the end of the day, quality is. I think quality is what men want. We don't really want the quality most folks, some men want, is quality we don't love. I know for me I don't want the quality of the quantity One. The quantity is expensive to you, never get a real connection. And one thing about learn about connections to I got, I got sex therapist. You know I've been my dry season to. I still got my sex therapist. We talk about things.

Speaker 2: 31:45

How okay. So how's your sex? How has sex therapy helped you, like as a man and like just into your manhood in general?

Speaker 1: 31:53

It's taught me that every new relationship you have with somebody, like a lady, is a different, is a whole new slate, so you have to relearn them.

Speaker 2: 32:04

You have to engage a little bit more you engage.

Speaker 1: 32:07

You can't just be like all right, you number nine, I'm going to treat them. Last time I started this way. Oh, last person like this. I guess you probably like flowers too. No, you got to actually study. Look, get intimate. Also, most of sex is mental. You know what I mean yeah. So if you both are in a bad mental while doing it or you're both not mentally, like it's a lot of it's fantasy.

Speaker 2: 32:32

That is a really good point. That is a really good point. Like if you're not right, you're bringing that to the bedroom. So like we're both fucked up mentally Like how great is this union anyway?

Speaker 1: 32:44

Yeah, that's why bad boys and bad girls give you better sex, because in your head that's the only thing they can give you. So you're focused more on the sex. But you ever love somebody and the sex is the most dangerous thing ever. But that should be vanilla as fuck.

Speaker 2: 33:00

It's like but I love you. We're not doing none of this shit. We was doing none of the kinky shit, but I love you.

Speaker 1: 33:07

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 33:09

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 33:10

And you just can't. You just keep faking about each other, even over the years. Yeah, because you had that connection.

Speaker 2: 33:18

Okay.

Speaker 1: 33:19

I think the connection in sex is what a lot of people don't like, don't think about.

Speaker 2: 33:23

Well, maybe more men should have sex therapists, because I think more men are obsessed with the quantity. They're just saying and that's okay, cause I think y'all are kind of conditioned to. You know how many fuck bitches get money, like that's the child are kind of conditioned for. And it wouldn't even get you guys the best woman, because no real woman wants that. Like you know, I don't want to a guy that anybody can get Like. I don't want to be worried about how many I go somewhere and like how many people in here are you done been with Like no, not mine.

Speaker 1: 33:55

So Like she also taught me. There are some misconceptions I got to communicate to women. Cause one most women want a man that is more sexually experienced than her. They want someone who also can lead in the bedroom. You know what I'm saying. Who may be want to try, and they that's like a like the, that's usually like the most of women. We, we think that men know exactly what to do and they can read minds. Yeah, and then we get upset when they can't guess what we want it Say again.

Speaker 2: 34:25

Yeah, I said, and that's why that communication is so important. But I think it's also like that's why you can't be having sex with just anybody, because you kind of got to foster an environment where it's like it's okay for you to say what's going, like you know what's on your mind, and it's okay for me to say what's on my mind, Cause, like earlier, you're like you know we're in the moment, so like we're not going to complain, but like, like you know, I want to know, like already, did you like that?

Speaker 2: 34:53

Did you like it, like I want to know, like don't have me in here guessing, because I hate trying to figure out like, yeah, you pay attention to body and like you know things like that. But like you know, if you really fucked with something, like let me know and this won't be just for your birthday Like this could be you know, whatever, but we got to talk about it Like this could be funny. It's good luck.

Speaker 1: 35:16

This could be a. This could be a morning activity.

Speaker 2: 35:19

Right and so you know, maybe sometimes there is an assumption that, like you know, men are having more sex. So maybe you expect a man to get with you and be like you must know what you're doing. But like, how is that how you approach it? Like, do you get stuck into a situation and be like, yeah, I'm about to, I know exactly what to do. She I'm about to, she's going to be hooked. Like you hide yourself up or you'd be like I don't know.

Speaker 1: 35:47

I'm more like I'm like, so I'm weird about it. And it's what I mean by weird, not like like eww weird, but like. I mean like I'm the quiet type. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2: 35:59

Like.

Speaker 1: 36:00

I'm not there. I'm not that aggressive until I'm in the moment.

Speaker 2: 36:06

Okay, if that makes sense.

Speaker 1: 36:08

I'm like this reserve type in the public, but you like yo, you're a lot more aggressive in the moment. Yeah, a lot of people see it coming, but I think I'm going to answer your question. It's. Let me ask you a question one more time. Like is my like Do?

Speaker 2: 36:22

you like lead? Are you like more dominant? Are you like telling a girl like this I'm not telling her, but like pretty much making this shit happen or do you let her lead?

Speaker 1: 36:31

I'm more dominant.

Speaker 2: 36:33

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 36:34

But I also like listen. I'm like, all right, I know for sure, Like I'm, I'm me as a person, I'm so like I'm a dominant person. So I literally have to tell myself to listen to people Like golly back.

Speaker 2: 36:48

What did she say?

Speaker 1: 36:51

So I know that's how I am. I know I'm hardheaded in that way. I'm like no, I'm going to do this way, this way. I already got everything planned out. But you're like well, we can do it this way. I'm like all right, we can do it that way, we'll figure this out. But like yeah, that being said, I need to. I don't think I don't really count it as like knowing each other's sexual until we do like 10, 15 of more times.

Speaker 2: 37:14

You know what I'm saying, so if you have bad sex the first time, if you have bad sex the first or second time, what's the chance of you going back?

Speaker 1: 37:24

I'm still going to give it a chance because like sex, ain't like the maker, the total making break, because we can get, we can get to know each other. You know what I'm saying More and like, figure it out.

Speaker 2: 37:35

Yeah, ok.

Speaker 1: 37:36

Well, that's what I'm saying. I think some of you are also kind of scared of that.

Speaker 2: 37:40

Like I think some women think that if I don't come in here and like lay down all the traits and like it's this nigga's mind, rob Doug, he's never going to talk to me again. Like I've had, like you know, friends kind of experience that where it's just like you know it wasn't the best, but I didn't think I was going to hear from him again or whatever the case is, and even a misconception that like be like, oh, she was drier this, and it's just like or maybe you just didn't know what to do to get her on, like you know.

Speaker 1: 38:09

So yeah some people need more foreplay. If you're not in the moment, it's going to be whack and quick, horrible sex. That shit going to be wet. It has happened.

Speaker 2: 38:21

Every time. What are we doing? Like, if we're not, it's just a penis and a hole at this point. Like if I don't know you, we haven't talked. Yeah, you don't know what I like we're not talking during it, we're not intimate. And like my god, my friends will be like yeah, I'm just fucking on somebody. Like I'm not kissing her. I'm like I wish a man would have me naked, but won't kiss me. Like I wish that would happen. But you know, women are out here, ok with it.

Speaker 1: 38:45

Like yeah, I are Another thing too right. I don't like that. Y'all OK with it. It's like the same girls who are OK with that are the women who purchased chicken wings and halves and let us get charged full price.

Speaker 2: 39:01

Wait, ok, hold on. You remember I was not expecting to even hear the word chicken. I'm not going to lie, so you're not going to lie.

Speaker 1: 39:08

We can't. We're settling for half the value right now.

Speaker 2: 39:13

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 39:14

Yeah, because it messes up your intimacy. If you don't kiss, it's part of it. For a play, it's all about genitals, which I'm saying.

Speaker 2: 39:21

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 39:22

And like it keeps you in a moment, but you know people don't know what to do Like, so sexual essentials.

Speaker 2: 39:31

Her name is Samaya, but if somebody I listen to, she's got a podcast called Not Just Another Sex Podcast, and so it's talking about sex, obviously, but from a standpoint of like let's make this better, let's make this a better situation for both men and women. It's very educational at the same time, and she recommends 18 to 40 minutes of foreplay for the best you know kind of intense, best orgasm, all that she says 18 to 40 minutes. Like do you think a lot of how many people like, do you think people know what to do for that long? 18 to 40 minutes.

Speaker 1: 40:07

I think they do, if they're not rushing it Like, you'll figure it out, because foreplay isn't just like, let's say, it can start from a restaurant to the driveway yeah to the door and the intensity can just keep growing and the excitement can keep bubbling up.

Speaker 2: 40:30

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 40:32

And then you'll still just get in the bedroom and they can still be going. That's how I think about it. I think like the sex starts way before you even start the kissing.

Speaker 2: 40:44

Absolutely. I just don't think enough people know that and I just think like men are rushing Like oh, here I'm trying to fuck, Like OK, or like damn, you look good, Like it's so aggressive and it's like we're women. You know what I'm saying. I'm not saying like you can be a little rough or tough or throw me around sometimes, but it's still like some tenderness, some care, that's like important and I don't think a lot of men know what to do 18 or 40 minutes before having sex, to be honest, and maybe if men were a little bit more intimate and maybe like, looked at it less of like a check, like let me fuck. I've been wanting to fuck, Let me fuck Like and like, let's experience, Like check, Like, all right, hit that Like and really look to experience it. It would be totally different.

Speaker 1: 41:39

But yeah, yeah, I think, yeah, that's a great point. I really think a lot of times we're so goal man, we are so goal-oriented and that's just a part of our mind. So we really came here to get the job done.

Speaker 2: 41:52

Right, but I feel that I can tell you know.

Speaker 1: 41:58

You don't care if I will die.

Speaker 2: 41:59

Like you don't really care if I will make me tick or the things that, like, gets me excited or the things that keep me engaged. Like you don't really care. You think you can spend a little money and get me back to the room and like, ok, I'm going to let you spend your money, but then you're going to be mad, like because I can tell you know, yeah, Let me see you up.

Speaker 1: 42:22

What was it? It was one big point I was trying to ask you about, about men and what was it. So you feel like we're, as men, we're rushing the process and back to the no kissing part in the checkerways part. Let's talk about that, right.

Speaker 2: 42:37

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 42:38

I was about the checkerways. You remember one point you could buy like the four wings for the same price. You're buying the wingdangs, but now they're selling you like pieces Like that, and we all agreed upon that. It's no one but our fault. One of us should have said this ain't right. But no, we said we're wrong. Yeah.

Speaker 2: 43:03

I don't blame anybody. I think it's just conditioning, like, because there's things men can do better, but there's also things women can do better. So like that's one thing I'm always talking about. Like let's stop blaming the men. There's things I can always say, like from experience and having guy friends, that I'm like y'all need to do better. But again, if I step in my pussy power and I start demanding y'all do better, then y'all going to do better, like because I said so.

Speaker 1: 43:30

I think it's like as a competitive edge with men. I think we want to do better, but if you literally let us skate to get what we want, you probably won't. We probably just go just meet expectations and not exceed it.

Speaker 2: 43:46

Because it's like the work smarter, not harder. Like you're not going to do the most. If you don't have to do the most. Like if I don't have to do all it is to be with her to get this version of her, then why would I? Right?

Speaker 1: 44:00

Exactly, and.

Speaker 2: 44:00

I think women need to acknowledge the fact that, like baby, you do want the most. You want a guy that is consumed with you, like you want at least me. I want a guy that's consumed with me, like I want somebody who wants to see me and wants to talk to me and wants to surprise me and has been listening to me and will be like I love flowers, bring me flowers randomly, like that's what I want, that will turn me up. You know what I'm saying. But like men don't even know how to bring that out of a woman, I think, and a lot of times women don't even know that they have that in them because they didn't explore themselves and then they don't have a man. That's like creating a space for them to do that.

Speaker 1: 44:41

Absolutely, yeah, I think, yeah, you're right, like getting that bridge for both people to improve, and like I don't like when I don't like. I really hate the relationship podcast lately too, because they'd be like they'd blame that side or this side or how they can mute it, since the podcast uses one sided, that one gender, just seemed like a selfish hope.

Speaker 2: 45:06

Right, but like that's what I'm so, and like even with my personal brand and good soul, like I'm so big on the individual work, like let's not talk about these other people and let's stop talking about what society's doing. And like let's stop talking about this like big, grand scheme of things, as if You're not in control your own life, like what let's talk about you. Like what do I need to do? And I love women and I think you know if, if women recognize their pussy power a little bit more, that, um, that honestly, like it would, it's a ripple effect, right. Like you know, you kind of demand more of men. Men start showing up. In a certain way, we need y'all to lead and protect.

Speaker 2: 45:50

So if you guys are out here leading and protecting and in doing it with swab and like Grace and stuff, like just imagine like the trickle it could do to the world. But like you got to look at yourself first, I'd be in like well, this dude did this, okay, and what did you do? And what are you gonna do about it? Okay, because are we a victim here? Like no, you're not. Like not all the time. Sometimes.

Speaker 1: 46:18

But, like you know, I'm not.

Speaker 2: 46:19

I'm just saying, like you know, if you experience something that you don't like or don't want to keep doing, figure out what you can do to change it. So yeah, you are what you attract. I got.

Speaker 1: 46:33

I got a question, though, so oh, right now, like are you understand boundaries? And I think that's very important. I think a lot of us need boundaries. Yeah what are your non-negotiables? What are some not like? You got like what. You got a few non-negotiables that now you like. Nah bro, I definitely ain't doing that.

Speaker 2: 46:54

Yeah, um, a non-negotiable for me is like I'm definitely not interrupting a marriage or like a sacred union. I you know people are in the Polly and all these other things now and that's fine. I'm just not that girl. I just Hold marriage like super sacred. So just you know, if you want a third or a girlfriend for y'all like, this is not me.

Speaker 2: 47:17

Another boundary I have is like I Don't want, like I said, like you know, just a one-time piece. Like I want to be able to build on something. I want to be like oh, I saw this video, let's try this like so that's a non-negotiable for me. Like if you're just trying to use me for a quick buck, I'm not your girl. It's got to be intimate. Like, even if it is just like that quick, kind of rough, just in and out, like you know, kind of it still has to have passion, it still has to be intimate. Or I reserve every right to like all right, we're not doing today's not the day, we can do this another time. And it's so funny. I actually have like a list of like my sexual beliefs that I just keep up with, because I Used to just be in situations where I'm like this doesn't feel right and I don't know why. And it's because I didn't have the verbiage of my boundaries, so like I keep it running, list for sure.

Speaker 1: 48:13

You got a couple in there. What does it say in that book? You got the book ready.

Speaker 2: 48:17

Yeah, I'll be doing Work now, okay. Oh yeah, after care is big for me too. I'm not saying like we necessarily have to always cuddle, but like I need you to make me feel like a woman and not like a piece of meat at the end of it. Like you know, you know, run me. Or, like my son, my booty a little bit. Or, like you know, affirm me. Or, you know, give me a good hug, like so I can't go get some orange juice.

Speaker 2: 48:44

If you bring me a cup to you and then bring your, I think it's like the Joyce the drink, the choices. It's just like it just.

Speaker 1: 49:00

Or the watermelon you blame, it goes. Watermelon real quick.

Speaker 2: 49:04

Right, like no, because if you come back in this room without my glass of OJ, you will never talk to me.

Speaker 1: 49:13

And what you got a couple more there like name two more.

Speaker 2: 49:19

So what I have is like your diet has to be pretty clean To enter. I don't eat, like be for pork. I'm not saying you gotta be a vegetarian or a vegan, but like if you smack it on chips, popcorn, so it'll all day like you don't have permission to access me and that's just Pringles I can't. Like you know. I'm not saying you can't eat a bag of chips, but like there are men that eat like children I cannot. Like that's a non-negotiable for me. Like no, and also because, like I know, will throw my body off. Like I know for a fact I haven't had red meat or pork for years. There's no way like you can enter me having that kind of stuff in your body and then not fuck me up. Hell, no. So that's another one. What else on my list?

Speaker 2: 50:10

Good thank you, I think spending my time, oh yeah, and then, like I believe in it, like exploring before sex. So that's talking about foreplay, like we're gonna have some type of foreplay, whether it's at the restaurant and my little foot.

Speaker 2: 50:25

you know why we're eating or like whatever it is, but like yeah, no, if there was no foreplay, you don't get to enter me. If you didn't even try to explore my body first, you don't get to enter me. So, yeah, I think it's important for women to have like their sexual beliefs, like outlines, because you'll be in a situation is like I don't fuck with this and I don't know why. Now you need to know why. Why don't you fuck with this and then say it and then get the fuck if you need to? So yeah, I do. You have any sexual non-negotiables or like sexual beliefs?

Speaker 1: 51:02

I don't like anybody in my butt, Okay that's fair.

Speaker 2: 51:06

You might be missing out, but that's me I'd rather miss out and die.

Speaker 1: 51:11

I'm like I'd rather die not knowing.

Speaker 2: 51:14

That's okay, you know how a girl would come and she, you're gonna be crazy about her, and she's gonna be crazy about her, and then she's gonna just Wow.

Speaker 1: 51:31

Clinch up.

Speaker 2: 51:32

You get in some great head and she started, you know, getting a little lower than anticipated.

Speaker 1: 51:37

I mean, I was just saying don't put nothing in there, you know, I mean oh yeah. You did that I. I kick you out, I block you right then in there. She. I might even cancel paying for the Uber on our way home. Oj, I'll be right to the liquor store. I'm gonna need a couple People. I won't be on the couch Drinking like nine twisted teas. Just like shit, I don't fuck.

Speaker 2: 52:10

I can't believe she tried me like that. I hit the group chat.

Speaker 1: 52:16

Listen about this. But the group chat, your group right trap I'd be. My other girls got group chats.

Speaker 2: 52:23

I wish I don't have um. I Wish my friends, like my at-home friends, are not as Open about it.

Speaker 2: 52:35

Yeah. So, um and that's something I even struggle with growing up I'm like y'all are super fucking judgy. Like you guys judge everything as if like You're the standard, and that was something that we really had to heal in our relationship. Like your opinion isn't the standard. Like so we'd stop judging anybody for anything. We would go somewhere and they'd be like, oh my god, she's just like that, shut the fuck up, I just have a good time. Like I can't, I can't, I can't.

Speaker 1: 53:01

So, um, yeah, these are these celebrities be dressed. They be dressed like trash and they, they just you.

Speaker 2: 53:08

They do be just like trash sometimes and sometimes, like before I started my spiritual journey, I was really big into fashion and I was like I'm gonna just one day style all these holes, but I don't have time for that. Yeah, I feel like, um, my work, I like I feel more purposeful being able to like kind of talk to women and, um, even men and have that taboo Conversation about, you know, sex and sexual healing and and affirming yourself and having a relationship with your pussy. Like you know, it's a little taboo, but I have a great time talking about it and I don't think you have this point in life.

Speaker 1: 53:45

I don't think anything's taboo like conversation. I think a lot of these conversations need to be need to happen because Are like think how we're raised, we don't work, that we're not Sexist. Taboo how we're not talking about it, but at the end of the day, like if your parents don't talk to you about it, you could get in so many like situations. Um, I think my mom talked to me about it. I don't know. My mother talked to me about about it, but my mom talked to me about it.

Speaker 2: 54:11

Like, why Any of those conversations?

Speaker 1: 54:13

my mom a little ratchet when she explained it, because she was, she was heard. My mom was a hood nigga and my dad is like me, so a little more calm.

Speaker 1: 54:21

So where's your mom? Tell you when? A fucking condom. It's always cussing at me. Don't trust these dirty hoes. I remember one time she questioned me, so you know why you got no kids. And this is when I knew my mom was from the hood. She walked, a girl walks by and she was like baby. I heard she got good, good pussy. I was all right. So, first of all, how do you?

Speaker 2: 54:47

Who did you hear this from? Who the fuck is it? Who the fuck are you talking to? What are you?

Speaker 1: 54:54

saying I was just like oh, my god I grew up with like a mom that would say shit, like that. So at the same time like it made me more open. And then I went to the, the military, the marines, so we talked like anything. And then I just heard a lot of shit my whole life. So now I'm just like I can talk about anything.

Speaker 2: 55:15

Yeah, and that's good for you. I think I think men are able to have those conversations a little bit more than women, because it's Especially growing up like they're still fear behind Anything down there, like if I tell you In high school, okay, a man might be masturbating, and it's like all right, let me just shut the door, like when nobody wants to hear that a woman is, like you know, playing with herself or like exploring herself there. You know, you and my mom was, just like you, ready to have sex. Like let me know so I can put you on birth control. All y'all care about is if we have a baby, but it's like no, because now you have me in this room with this man and I'm letting him tell me what feels good, or letting him Dictate this whole situation, because you didn't tell me what the fuck this was even supposed to feel like. Like you didn't even tell me this, I don't know.

Speaker 2: 56:02

Like so, and I actually did have a beautiful first time. I will say like we were both Newtidus and we were in a relationship and it was funny and we laughed and like because we were both just trying to figure shit out, and it was beautiful. He was like do I take my socks off? I'm like shit, I don't know. You know, um, but nobody even. The conversation is still Not about pleasure at all. It's not about what should feel good. It's not about like, you know, like don't be what it, you know, I don't know. It's just like just don't have a baby.

Speaker 1: 56:35

Yes, I don't get, don't have, don't get caught pretty much.

Speaker 2: 56:39

Yeah, don't get caught. Wrap up and don't have a kid like, oh Okay, and then I get here and I make it and I'm like Vulnerable and I'm feeling like should I be, you know, because nobody told me these things and yeah.

Speaker 1: 56:53

I started um Later on them all, my friends, I started at the high school, okay, I? Thought honestly, I thought I was getting pancakes. I got something else that Marna.

Speaker 2: 57:16

And see, that's another thing. I think people forget that women are sexual beings ourselves. Y'all are not the only ones that want to fuck, like that's another thing. And so, um, and we're sexual beings, were sensual beings, and um, you know, you've seen a woman kind of unlock when she feels sexy and she, like you know in her element a little bit, and that's nothing for us to shy away from, you know.

Speaker 1: 57:41

Exactly and, um, I had to learn that. I had to learn and appreciate that and a lot of times, as like, like society teaches us, as men like yo, like we treat Charles objects. Yeah and I had learned what objectifying men you know, I mean like. A lot of times I even was subject to objectifying woman. Yeah not like the like the normal. Was it massagered in stick way? It was more so. Like yo, I gotta do this for him.

Speaker 1: 58:11

This form, this form, and and like bruh, that's a whole human over there, like you won't as a whole Spirit in that body, bro, as a whole deep another world over there, bro, and I had to learn that like later on in life, like during, like the hard way, just you know more time to think about it and like and that's pretty much what I was, what you got learned, you already got be like a guy. I'm like yo, I know like my, my grandfather in the way like taught me traditional. Oh there's no thing. You take care of the woman. You don't complain. You don't want to get the results right.

Speaker 1: 58:47

Yeah, and at a time that neglects you as a your man. Your need is a man and it stops. It doesn't make you allow them to have the was. It is it, matriarch? You said, yeah, like it doesn't. Let them be that figure in your life.

Speaker 2: 59:07

Yeah, and I think, um, that's what I said. It's a cycle and that's why I don't like come like completely blaming the other sex, because, in the same sense, the traditional things you guys, those are your strengths. Like you guys are good at being goal-oriented, you guys are good at protecting, you guys are good at leading, and you know, and in women with the right man, I know some missing, like submitting sounds so fucking crazy. But like you have a good man, you want to take care of him, you want to make his life easier. Like you want to make him feel like a man, but it's like a fucking disconnect because Men aren't showing up like that. And so then you got this hard-ass woman that's still operating out of survival mode and it's just like neither one of you guys are getting what you should get from this union, like neither one of y'all.

Speaker 2: 59:57

Both, we all are depleted right now, you know, because neither one of y'all are Experiencing each other or asking those questions, are given a fucking up to be like. You know, I hate that you do this, but why do you do this? Why? Why is this? It's just like no, she, she getting on my nerves. I'm gonna leave for a little bit and come back when I'm good, and it's just. We're humans. We deserve to experience each other and Learn from each other and get inspired by each other and all those things. That's what makes our experience a little different.

Speaker 1: 1:00:30

And then the animals you know, you know, someone said that maybe one time I was like, oh man, I just I'm. I said I enjoyed the conference. There's like oh, and I was like you know, I'm so good because you know these type of people, they motivate me. They'll know if you're in the motivated, if you you need to be motivated other people, then you're just not gonna make it and I'm like it's not a need, it's more so appreciation, and it's the thing that will excel you.

Speaker 2: 1:00:54

Literally, and it could be a need, like I don't know, but I I don't know for sure. I mean, but I don't think anybody has made it to the top without somebody else. Like you. You got a partner. You got a group of people that you can bounce ideas off of. You got people that motivate you when you don't fucking feel like it. You got people that are doing better than you. That, and so that is just a natural fucking inspiration One. It makes you realize that, hey, this possible because this person, like I know this person, and look at what they're able to accomplish. It makes you realize you can do it yourself. So like, again, that's what I'm saying, but like, even with the judgment kind of thing, like they could have kept that comment to themselves, like, if that's how you feel, okay.

Speaker 2: 1:01:35

But what did I just say? I said I love being around people that motivate me. You ain't have to say shit if you ain't agree. Like you know, I don't say unlike. Let let that be your experience. I love being around people and that's why I quit my corporate job. I was behind the desk for nine hours. I'm not gotta not create me for that. I'm supposed to be in front of people. I'm supposed to be talking to people. I will go stand outside in the heat for nine hours and sell my products at a vendor shop Before I submit to a life behind the damn desk forever.

Speaker 1: 1:02:06

I'm sorry, so damn straight about that. I would do that too. Um, I just got figure my stuff out. Yeah, I just got started got into the podcast thing too. I was just started so I was like oh, I like this better.

Speaker 2: 1:02:21

Yeah, and like when you have that outlet and it was a big decision, like I talked for it for months but, um, spirit was just on me heavy, like I realized, when I'm confused or unsettled, like you know, some people find those areas in lives and like I'm really confused here, I'm so unsettled I don't know what to do and they just try to wish it away or just try to pray it away or just be like you know, it's just a season, it'll pass. But like again, when you know the language of the world, that's the world telling you like this area needs attention If it's because you don't have peace here you know, I don't say the areas that you have peace in, you're good.

Speaker 2: 1:02:55

Don't just keep praying this away or wishing it away. Like, give this some attention, do some work here and so for me, like my Work life was like driving me nuts. I woke up like dreading going to work and anxious going to sleep about getting up the next morning Like no, no, that's where I'm at and I'm too young. Yeah, and you know what's crazy.

Speaker 1: 1:03:19

Because you just said the word you, uh, you said too young. Um, I was listening to my bosses and they're like, yeah, my husband wants to do this, um, after, in our next life, after we retire. But I does like in my mind, I don't ask how old people are.

Speaker 1: 1:03:35

But, I started doing the math. I'm like yo, they like 50 plus. So like your next life is in you 60. So you're saying you're gonna finally live In your 60s. And let's say you finally get what you wanted, or the magical thing that people think when you finally arrive, um, and you like maybe you're 65, 70, like you just start living and you got like what, 20 years at this point that enjoy what you just started living for.

Speaker 2: 1:04:01

Like why?

Speaker 1: 1:04:01

not take the chance to get that now.

Speaker 2: 1:04:05

And the thing is and older generations are like we really like got their panties in a knot, like over, just deciding that Society isn't gonna dictate my life. I am Um, it sounds crazy to say like, yeah, I Am a single mom with a kid and I quit my job, but, like, I needed to know what I was capable of and, of course, I set myself up first. Like you know, I got a couple of months rent saving nobody's just saying On your Beyonce, break my soul, fuck this job, kind of deal, but do it right. But like, once you start working, you'll be working for the rest of your life. Like it's like, legitimately, if you follow this damn path, like that is what your life looks like working till you retire. You don't have to submit to that.

Speaker 2: 1:04:49

And I wanted to see what I was capable of. So Are you doing well? You're making it? Yeah, I mean thank you. And I literally like, like I Get anxious about it. What the fuck was I thinking? And then, like you know, spirit comes around and be like here's some, here's some money, or look at the sale and I'm like you know what I'd be tripping you right, y'all got me, y'all always got me. So that's another thing about being spiritual and that prayer kind of thing. Like you can, you can hear better when You're having those constant communication and you keep that gateway open. You're doing the spiritual work or praying. I pull my cards and I know it looks different for everybody, but like you want to keep that channel open because you want to be communicated to to, you don't want to just ask for things.

Speaker 1: 1:05:40

You know I was just saying, and when you communicate to you ever you're watching like the avatar.

Speaker 2: 1:05:46

Yeah, and when he?

Speaker 1: 1:05:47

was an avatar state, this I'll be filled With everything's like well connected. Now you just feel like. You feel like yeah, you feel like you're a little leaf and somehow you just like that one leaf just accomplished all your goals to fly to the wind somehow.

Speaker 2: 1:06:04

Operating that all the fucking time though like, uh, just pure avatar state. Like this endless avatar state, it doesn't run out.

Speaker 1: 1:06:13

Like exactly Somehow you just sip the bottle of water. You've done like 10 hours for it to work. Yeah somehow you may like.

Speaker 2: 1:06:24

And and there's ebbs and flows like I don't know that's. I just want everybody to just honor themselves, honor their feelings and honor their journey, like Everything you're going through is because you had to go through it. Like, no, it was no other way. Like you had to go through this for whatever the fuck is meant for you. So honor that, like experience that and Maybe you're still in this space because you're not done learning whatever the fuck you needed to learn, because when you're done learning it, trust me, life is going to move you the fuck on to something else. So just honor, honor yourself and that journey for sure.

Speaker 1: 1:06:59

We could talk about this all night, but One day we're gonna get another conversation.

Speaker 1: 1:07:05

I want to do, uh, spiritual man versus spiritual woman and like the difference is Because a lot of times I think you guys have a like a natural knack for it, because a lot of times, like logic, we use logic and logic only lets you go so far, and I've seen a lot of like women who manifested and got their lines right just using their spiritual energy. A lot of guys we don't go far because we only see as far as our logic allows us because it has to make sense to you guys.

Speaker 2: 1:07:39

And, um, and honestly, it doesn't make sense If you're, if you're, grown up a certain way, like it doesn't make sense that, like the fucking birds could be telling you something, or that, like you know, these angel numbers mean something, or like that doesn't make sense. But the thing is, if you believe in a creator, then it's, it makes sense that there's patterns in the world that you could learn. Like any other science. People will be like oh, you don't believe in that, you don't how you believe in this. It's, it's like a fucking science, bro, it's like it's nothing, it's just what is you know. That's why it's passed down for for years and years and years and years. Because it doesn't matter, it's what it's true, it doesn't matter. We don't need a specific book. And I'm still a christian. I still believe in god, but like spirituality is I'm more spiritual than religious, because can't it's not a one-size-fit-all thing? Like, find your relationship to source and then like, let that speak to you.

Speaker 1: 1:08:33

So and where can we find you?

Speaker 2: 1:08:38

I'm on instagram. Well, everything at good soul sam um, I recently started playing on tiktok a little bit, so go on here and hype me up so I can keep making videos. I'm like a soul sam Um. I make jewelry. I have like rings and bracelets and necklaces and anklets, um, and I'm the good soul companycom. I also make candles and clothes and lock jewelry, um, and I'm playing with making these like massage oil candles, which I can't wait to get the formula down for and put them out. So like, yeah, um, my podcast is at hilltas fuck pods so you can follow us there too, and we drop episodes every other monday. So one came out this monday, we'll skip, and then next monday.

Speaker 1: 1:09:27

I gotta check out more of your episodes. I've been checking out all episodes from um people I met at the podcast summit and some of them have been really good some of them have been I.

Speaker 2: 1:09:39

I've learned a lot of things, so with that I will say, though, like um and I'm sorry, I know we were rapping, but um, like our earlier episodes, so me and my co-hosts we didn't know each other when God started. So like I think it's really neat, like you can see that one air chemistry kind and grow as we, like kind get to know each other. It was very like rigid when we got started, um and like now we'll be on there like drinking, pulling cards, like tarot cards and the whole thing.

Speaker 1: 1:10:04

So no or not. I'm probably one of the few guys I could do tarot cards Really. Yeah, I stopped doing them because I was like you know what these are good, too good.

Speaker 2: 1:10:15

I don't know this. They gonna tell you about yourself.

Speaker 1: 1:10:17

Every time I feel like why are you At one point I didn't want to know no more. I don't want to know this shit.

Speaker 2: 1:10:23

I stopped pulling for a little bit too. I'm like I'll just figure it out, Let me figure this out with that guy.

Speaker 1: 1:10:30

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